Just in case you’ve been wondering where I have been for the last couple of months (seven to be precise), I have been around. If you want to know what I have been doing and why I have been quiet, the answer is simple: I have been learning a few lessons about life.
I am now 29 years old, I have sailed through life effortlessly. I know that I was a rather spoilt child. I did not starve, I did not lose anyone precious to me. I am cherished and adored by the great majority of people I meet. I have no trouble making friends, money and the older I grow, the healthier I am.
A blissful life begets complaisance and sometimes arrogance. Like most people who have been blessed by God and life, I took it for granted and actually fooled myself into believing that the blessings and mercies were birthrights instead of privileges.
I am at the very senior level of the hard learner’s club. In other words, all lessons that are worth learning, I learned them the hard way.
2008 turned out to be a year of learning about life the very hard away.
I learned that:
– Being too smart can be a curse. I earn my living by advising entrepreneurs to avoid killer mistakes. I thought that I was exempt to my own advice and sailed into some business deals with an ultra dose of confidence. Result: lost a great deal of money and wasted time. Money is replaceable (that’s a God given gift that I am grateful for), time is not. But I had to learn that, the hard way.
– Being too secretive can be a killer. I am probably the most secretive person you will ever meet. My parents and other relatives don’t even know half my life. I am no criminal or freak but there are aspects of my life that I keep to myself. I share as little as possible. Just the bare essentials. In my books, being an open book is a liability. My friends complain about that. I learned that keeping some secrets can be a killer. While I will not be publishing an autobio by tomorrow and spilling all my life out, I have learned that some things need to be shared so that when decisions are made, all parties are better informed.
– People need to be treated with respect. Just because people volunteer their time, money and/or energy is no ticket to abuse of that and basically treat them like slaves. I can’t get into it much without compromising the integrity of some of the people that are close to me.
– Tough guys don’t act tough. That’s a piece of advice that a lady friend dropped on my lap and it revolutionized my thinking.
– God gives but we have to reach out. I depend on God for everything. But I am learning that I have to actually get up and get stuff done because He will not drop it at my doorstep. God is no delivery person.
– Anyone who can claim to have a better family that mine, please step up. At least, that was before all of us started looking for significant others. The keyword here is tolerance. Tolerance towards new additions to the family. Of course God and His wonderful sense of humour… He’s bringing in people that I have a hard time standing. The sooner I start standing them, the better off I will be. In other words, the problem is with me and not with the people coming into the family slowly but surely.
– Girls are trouble
– Girls are trouble
– Love is trouble
– Love is trouble
– Trouble brings the human side out of me
– Opportunities should be acted on right away. Again, I advise entrepreneurs and when they ask me when the best time to start a business or project is, my answer is always: “When an opportunity presents itself”. I should heed my own business advice and realize that it also applies to everyday life.
– At long last, my commitment issues are dealt with!
Where have I been? How have I been?
You have your answers.
But I still want 2008 to get lost. I hated the greater part of it because I was under submission of these lessons that I was learning the hard way. I got it, now please bring my normal life back!
PS: I also learned that I look good in a suit. Never before in my life have so many people who do not each other commented so positively on the way I dress! For that, I am flattered : )
